Does anyone else get 'competitive' with friends trying to lose weight? I have one friend that has also been trying to lose weight for a long time. I'm always slightly jealous when she's successfully lost weight and feel a bit better when I am more successful. We're both not in a good place right now.
Why can't I just be happy for her? Why does it have to be a competition? Of course I would never say any of this to anyone (except the entire blogosphere). I want to just be proud of people that are successful and not compare it to myself, and just learn from successes.
I want to be a better person! I'm glad I married the least judgmental person ever. He's a good influence on me. I just need to stop comparing and start embracing everyone's different journeys...
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embrace the similarities you have to each of your friends and the commonalities you share. While you may not lose the same weight the same week there will be a time when their weight loss slows and yours will continue..As long as you continue each day to strive the best "you" can be. It's the journey with friends that makes this easier..whether with blogsphere/cyber friends or the ones in our own reality.
:) "YOU" can do this..Believe in yourself!
Thanks! Funny thing is, I don't feel competitive with blog-friends. Even though our entire 'relationship' is based on our weightloss. Weird!
I think that competitive feeling is natural, you both want the same things. Why not try to use her sucess as motivation to push harder toward your goals? I have someone in my life that I feel the same way about so I know where your coming from. You are just human............ give yourself a break. :)
I think you're experiencing human nature. Competiton, whether we like it or not, want it or not, is natural.
I have experienced this in real life, with members at WW meetings. (One reason I don't want to go to meetings again.)
What I find amazing, is I don't experience it at all with bloggers. I really get excited when someone loses! Go figure. Would it be different in real life? I hope not, but you never know.
Just say I'm so happy for you to your friend, whether you believe it or not. lol
I think it's easy to get caught up in the competition of things, but you do have to take a step back and remember that everyone is different and will lose the weight at different paces. As long as you are happy with what you are doing, don't worry about what is happening with your friend. Just remember that in the long run, you are both striving for the same goal.
it is easy to get caught up in the moment. We all struggle with this at one point or another. I just try and think before I judge.
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I am 'secretly' competitive like that too, with my coworkers that I see everyday :> But I think it's okay as long as we don't let it get the better of ourselves, and it makes us that much more motivated!! Use it to good means! heee
I completely agree with MacAttack, I dont feel at all competitive with my bloggin' buddies. My real life friends, even though I never say anything to them, I often feel competition, especially in regards to weight loss.
I suppose its jealousy, which is an evil thing, but sometimes the competition helps to motivate me. I feel like I get a much more positive form of motivation through readers comments and reading other bloggers postings though! Youre not alone :)
i think its natural to be a bit competitive. some people take it to the extreme...
I think a little healthy competition can be a good thing - especially if it makes the difference between eating that cookie (or bad choice of the day) and not. I've got a good friend and my husband doing this with me. I *try* hard to celebrate their victories by knowing I helped them get there by supporting and encouraging them. Of course, there are weeks my husband drops a big chunck for no ovbious reason other than he is a boy and its hard not to want to kick him :-)
Wow, I got a lot of comments on this post! Thank you all for your advice. As a slow loser I sometimes wish I could lose quicker...but that is not to be. but hey as 3 month challenge said, the decimal losses add up!
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